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Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Queen Elizabeth Park Vancouver B.C.








Queen Elizabeth Park Vancouver B.C. canada

Situated in the heart of the city, atop Little Mountain, the gardens are a delight to the visitor. To add to the pleasure is the Bloedel Floral Conservatory with its many tropical plants and seasonal floral displays.

Bangkok - The Royal Barge

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Bangkok – The Royal Barge

Seattle Pike Market Place






Seattle’s Pike Place Market – Then and Now

Seattle Washington

Historical photograph provided by Seattle Museum of Histroy and Industry, Contemporary photograph by Ed Lowe

Inspiration




On occasion, what you need most is a burst of inspiration to keep you moving forward. This is a quote I recently stumbled upon... and found very inspiring.





"Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment."



-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Friday, April 23, 2010

Relationships - 80:20 Rule

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There is no human being on earth who is perfect.

No perfect husband or wife exists, neither will there be a perfect marriage where the couple lived in eternal bliss with no quarrels, disagreements, misunderstandings and in total accordance with each other.

But, we wish for perfection, some of us will do our best to attempt to change our partner into someone whom we prefer.

How do you do that? How do you make your relationship as flawless as you could? By working on your partner’s faults and weaknesses, hoping to turn them into strengths and qualities that will augment the marriage, in your opinion.

But what if, your partner already possesses 80% of qualities in the image of a perfect spouse that you desire, and it’s only the 20% that acts as the obstacle towards you achieving the ultimate mark? Would you be so affected by that 20% and keep harping on it to yourself?

Some wives will whine about their partner’s lack of initiative, messiness, lack of communication, and fail to appreciate the stability, responsibility and honesty, the exact traits which made them commit to their relationship in the first place. The same goes for the husbands.

Without realising, these people are magnifying the problems, and making them seem larger than life. They begin to perceive the weakness as one that is much more serious than it actually is, and that gives them even more reason to talk about it, and it makes things worse again. They have just begun a vicious cycle.

Why not think about the 80% when you are affected by the 20? Because when you choose to focus on the good, only then will you be able to draw strength from the love that comes with it, then deal with that 20% .

See, how men focus on the negative even when it is only 20%, and so easily become blind to the goodness of things.

You are what your mind is capable of thinking and focusing. So, make the right decision today to zoom in to the plus points, and refrain yourself from indulging in your insatisfactions, othrewise you will be sucked into the black hole unconsciously.

culled from: www.kloudiia.com

Theories of love - Part 2



Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love

This is perhaps one of my favorite theory of love. 

Psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed a triangular theory of love that suggests that there are three components of love: intimacy, passion, and commitment.

The three components, pictorially labeled on the vertices of a triangle, interact with each other and with the actions they produce and with the actions that produce them so as to form seven different kinds of love experiences (nonlove is not represented). The size of the triangle functions to represent the "amount" of love - the bigger the triangle the greater the love. The shape of the triangle functions to represent the "type" of love, which may vary over the course of the relationship:

Different combinations of these three components result in different types of love.   According to Sternberg, relationships built on two or more elements are more enduring that those based upon a single component.

The different combinations are listed below :

    * Nonlove is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love.

    * Liking/friendship in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.

    * Infatuated love is pure passion. Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. However, without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

    * Empty love is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.

    * Romantic love bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.

    * Companionate love is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.

    * Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion without the stabilizing influence of intimacy. A relationship, however, whereby an individual party agrees to sexual favors purely out of commitment issues, or is pressured/forced into sexual acts does not comprise Fatuous love, and instead tends more to Empty love.

    * Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple”. According to Sternberg, such couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they can not imagine themselves happy over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other.  However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action.  Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into compassionate love.

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Saturday, February 27, 2010

Theories of love - Part 1



Psychologists and researchers have proposed a number of different theories of love. The following are some major theories proposed to explain liking, love, and emotional attachment.

Liking vs. Loving
Psychologist Zick Rubin proposed that romantic love is made up of three elements: attachment, caring, and intimacy. Attachment is the need to receive care, approval, and physical contact with the other person. Caring involves valuing the other persons needs and happiness as much as your own. Intimacy refers to the sharing of thoughts, desires, and feelings with the other person.

Based upon this definition, Rubin devised a questionnaire to assess attitudes about others and found that these scales of liking and loving provided support for his conception of love.

Compassionate vs. Passionate Love
According to psychologist Elaine Hatfield and her colleagues, there are two basic types of love: compassionate love and passionate love. Compassionate love is characterized by mutual respect, attachment, affection, and trust. Compassionate love usually develops out of feelings of mutual understanding and shared respect for each other.

Passionate love is characterized by intense emotions, sexual attraction, anxiety, and affection. When these intense emotions are reciprocated, people feel elated and fulfilled. Unreciprocated love leads to feelings of despondence and despair. Hatfield suggests that passionate love is transitory, usually lasting between 6 and 30 months.

According to Hatfield, passionate love arises when cultural expectations encourage falling in love, when the person meets your preconceived ideas of an ideal lover, and when you experience heightened physiological arousal in the presence of the other person.

Ideally passionate love then leads to compassionate love, which is far more enduring. While most people desire relationships that combine the security and stability of compassionate with the intensity of passionate love, Hatfield suggests that this is rare.

The Color Wheel Model of Love
In his 1973 book The Colors of Love, John Lee compared styles of love to the color wheel. Just as there are three primary colors, Lee suggested that there are three primary styles of love. These three styles of love are: (1) Eros, (2) Ludos, and (3) Storge.

Continuing the color wheel analogy, Lee proposed that just as the primary colors can be combined to create complementary colors, these three primary styles of love could be combined to create nine different secondary love styles. For example, a combination of Eros and Ludos results in Mania, or obsessive love.

Lee’s 6 Styles of Loving

Three primary styles:
1. Eros – Loving an ideal person
2. Ludos – Love as a game
3. Storge – Love as friendship

Three secondary styles:
1. Mania (Eros + Ludos) – Obsessive love
2. Pragma (Ludos + Storge) – Realistic and practical love
3. Agape (Eros + Storge) – Selfless love

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Saturday, February 6, 2010

Validation?

Interesting video about the simplest thing in life that we all can DO!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Famous People With a Degree in Psychology

nullnullWhat do Natalie Portman, Hugh Hefner and Ted Bundy all have in common? No, this isn't the set up for a bad joke. What these three famous (or infamous) individuals have in common is that they all earned a bachelor's degree in psychology. I recently received an email question from a reader about whether any famous individuals had majored in psychology while in college. The following are just a few well-known individuals who were psychology majors.

•Jerry Bruckheimer (television and movie producer): B.A. in psychology from the University of Arizona
•Wes Craven (film director and writer): B.A. in psychology and education from Wheaton College
•Gloria Estefan (singer and song-writer): B.A. in psychology from the University of Miami
•Hugh Hefner (magazine publisher): B.A. in psychology from the University of Illinois
•Katherine Hepburn (actress): B.S. in psychology from Bryn Mawr College
•Guy Kawasaki (venture capitalist and blogger): B.A. in psychology from Stanford University
•Natalie Portman (actress): B.A. in psychology from Harvard University
•Ted Bundy (serial killer): B.A. in psychology from the University of Washington
•Monica Lewinsky (former White House intern): B.A. in psychology from Lewis and Clark College
•Jon Stewart (political satirist and television host): B.A. in psychology from the College of William and Mary

Friday, January 8, 2010

Things that we do in Favour of Right Hand!

Things that we do in Favour of Right Hand!

Social behavior
•Passing or pouring wine with the left hand leads to bad luck.
A left-handed toast is tantamount to a curse on the victim.
•Driving on the left – started so that horse riders could use their whips in the right-hand to fend off other road users – see more about this

Religion
•Christianity is strongly based towards the right hand. It is the right had that gives the blessing and make the sign of the cross.
•On one count, the bible contains over 100 favourable reference to the right-hand and 25 unfavourable references to the left-hand. E.g.: The right hand of the lord doeth valiantly, the right hand of the lord is exalted (Psalm 118 vv15,16)
•The left hand does worst in the parable of the sheep and goats. The sheep are set on Christ’s right hand and the goats on the left. Those on the right inherit the kingdom of god while those on the let depart into everlasting fire.
•The situation is much the same in Judaism and Islam. In Islam, the left hand and everything associated with it is seen as unclean. This stems from the Middle Eastern custom of using the left-hand and water instead of toilet paper. This is the origin of the term “cack-handed

Overcoming Failure

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No one actually wants to encounter failure in their life. That’s because when you look at the isolated incident, it means that you haven’t found success. However, with the right attitude, you can use your failure in order to get yourself to success in an accelerated fashion.


Money : How to Motivate Yourself To Save

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Many of us would like to have money in savings. Having some money set aside can make a huge difference in our ability to reach for our dreams.

But when you’ve got a long way to go before you meet your financial goal, and when – frankly – a dollar spent now seems to provide a lot more pleasure than a dollar saved, how can you make sure you’re motivated enough to put money aside on a regular basis?

Some tips for you…


1. Save Little And Often

How about saving just a dollar or two each day? Most of us can cut a couple of dollars of unnecessary spending every day (how about skipping that latte, carpooling, ditching your daily newspaper..?), over the course of a year, you’ll have saved several hundred dollars.

2. Read Personal Finance Blogs

I find that I get encouraged to save – and to adopt good financial habits in general – by reading about others’ tips and success. One of my must-read blogs for this is The Simple Dollar; Trent writes very well, and covers topics in-depth without making them too complicated. Other good blogs on personal finance are Get Rich Slowly and Wise Bread.

3. Keep a Savings Log

Something that’s often recommended for those sorting out their finances is to keep a spending log – to write down what you spend, so that you have a clear picture of where all the money is going.
A twist on this, though, is to keep a savings log. Each time you make a deposit into your savings account (or each time you shove a few dollars into the jam jar hidden under your bed), write down the date and how much you saved. This can be a great way to motivate yourself to save more.

4. Save Towards A Specific Goal

Having a very clear goal in mind can make it much easier to save up. Your end reward might not be a tangible thing like a vacation or a new purchase: it might be peace of mind, or a sense of security or freedom. Consider visualizing how you’ll feel once you have your target amount in the bank. Will it take a weight off your shoulders? Will you be proud of what you’ve achieved?

5. Automate Your Savings

Get your bank to transfer $100 (or $200 or $500 etc) from your checking account into a savings account, at the start of each month. If the money goes out without you having to lift a finger, chances are that you’ll simply let it head off into the savings pot …

There are plenty more ways to motivate yourself to save – so let’s hear some of your best tips in the comments!

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Saturday, January 2, 2010

Do what you love ! - (Part 2)



Ok, now we are all convinced that we each have our abilities and passion. And that we should work for our passion and not just for the sake of work.


So the real question is how to get started?

Five things you can do to move toward getting paid to do what you love:

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