Learn This Secret to Boost Your Confidence 2

You are not the center of the universe. Nobody really cares about your every move. Nobody is watching, and if they happen to be, they are far less concerned with what you are doing and much more focused on what YOU are thinking about them. That’s the irony of this. You think you are so important that everyone cares what you do, when in fact, everyone is so preoccupied with themselves that they don’t even notice or care what you are doing.

Learn This Secret to Boost Your Confidence 1

Nearly all of us, nearly all the time, are deathly afraid we’ll say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing, or just generally look like a complete idiot.

Think you’re different?

Get Over Yourself!

When you walk into a networking event, what are you thinking?

When you are introduced to someone new, are you trying to remember their name or are you instead thinking of something witty or clever to say to make a good impression? Do you have any fear when you are in a job interview? Are you petrified to give a public speech?

Do you resist speaking up in a meeting even if you think you might have something important to share?

Stranger in the Mirror (1) - Internal Dialogues

Pam is an accomplished dancer with a fit body and flawless complexion. Though a positive, successful, and engaging person, Pam avoided prolonged looks into her mirror. Negative streams of thought would chide her, “Your nose is too crooked. Your skin is a mess. You’re too fat. ...”.

Pam knew these conversations were untrue and fought back with an internal debate and attempts of positive thinking. However, these daily internal dialogues would creep back into her thoughts time and again and cast seeds of doubt in her mind. Hence, to avoid all these hassles, she simply stopped making eye contact with the ‘stranger’ in the mirror.

It is all too common for many people, when faced with an uncomfortable situation, to find relief in avoidance and distraction.